Parties, night-outs, trendy clothes and gadgets, shopping, getaways, meeting new people, band concerts, mosh pits, road trips, ditching the class and sleeping over at a friend’s house are just some of the actions that gave me “guilty pleasures” on my teenage years. Those were the times where all I think about is to have a good time, to have enjoyable moments with my friends. I didn't care about everything that could happen after all those pleasurable times until that day arrived and all the guilty pleasures were gone.
It was way back 2009 when
I and my relatives went out of town to visit Batangas, a province
that’s 3 hours away from our province, Bulacan. We stayed at my
aunt’s house, there also lived my cousin (her daughter) whom I also
considered as a sister. They were celebrating their barrio fiesta at
that time. Her classmates also visited her and she introduced me to
them.
I was very aloof at that
time, yes, I’m not that kind of person who will start the
conversation when you introduce me to new people. It kind of gives me
the feeling of being uncomfortable when new people are around. Yup,
I’m afraid to talk to new people. I don’t know but that’s one
of my negative personalities. I’m not actually anti-social, it’s
just that, I’m afraid I might say something wrong and bring awkward
moments to the situation. But truly, I appear unfriendly, at first,
especially for people I just met. But try to ask those people who
were with me every day, they’ll probably tell you the opposite of
other people’s first impression of me. lol
Okay, back to my story!
So my cousin introduced me to her friends and that I was just quite
blah blah blah… Until this guy approached me with all his courage
to talk to me even though he’s wasted after getting drunk from the
after-party. We talked all evening and he even showed me how good he
is at performing magic tricks. To be specific, card tricks. Yes, I
was amazed. Stunned not only by his skills but also for the way he
approached me and also with the way he started the conversation. It’s
like he’s very different from what my personality is. Then his
friends decided to go home already for it’s getting late. Wondering
how we kept our communication? Yup, he asked for my phone number and
I didn't rebuffed his appeal. I think he’s a nice guy and I’d
also love to keep in touch with him.
Everything
that’s happening in my life now started that night. He became my
boyfriend after months, and months passed, we had our firsts, I fell
in love with him so deeply. My mindset was changed and all I imagine
was him. I believed that my world was only revolving around him.
We've experienced a lot of things. We even experienced leaving both
our homes just to be with each other. Yes we’re totally teenagers.
We’ll do anything just to be together. Funny? For some, yes it’s
really funny. But for those who have been there, it’s not. =)
There are
times when we both hurt each other and stuffs like that. Sometimes,
our fights are pointless. We argue over small things. Maybe those
things were all because of distance. That 3-hour away distance is not
easy for teenagers like us. We only get to see each other once or
twice a month. And do you know what the hardest part of our
relationship is? -- Temptations. We cooled off and gave some space for each other ‘til we decided to end the relationship that has been
hurting us both. That’s hard especially when you've been attached
to someone so deeply and suddenly you have to let them go for some
reason.
Months
passed and we gave our relationship a second chance. He reconciled
and I forgave him. He told me that he realized what he has lost. He
explained me how sleepless his nights are after our breakup. He even
admitted that he was absolutely an idiot for what he did. Months came
and I can say that our relationship became stronger after the
breakup.
Time passed
by and I felt something wrong with myself, it was September when I
immediately called him and told him what I’m feeling. He visited me
and brought a pregnancy test to examine if I was pregnant. We both
looked over the PT as it goes through the lines. It was a double
line. I was pregnant. Tears fell down my face. I was very scared at that very moment.
He hugged me tight and he whispered me ‘thank you’ and even told
me how much he loves me and that he’ll be responsible for
everything that’s going to happen. Still, I was shocked and I can’t
say anything. I’m very afraid for my family’s reaction about my
situation. He courageously faced my family telling them that he’ll
take care of us. (Me and our baby)
Time passed
and I gave birth to a beautiful angel. The very moment we saw her,
our hearts was filled with happiness. She’s very innocent and
angelic. We named her “Blake” after the Hollywood actress “Blake
Lively” from the popular movie and TV series, “Green Lantern”
and “Gossip Girl”.
Today, we’re
now living a happy life. Truly, while I am writing this article now,
I can sense how blissful and contented I am with what I have now. I have a
joyful family, compassionate, dependable, and loving husband by my
side (I call him husband even though we’re not married yet) and a
very cute angel that inspires us and gives us a huge motivation on
why we should wake up every morning. Seeing them both each morning is
the greatest gift God has ever given me. I couldn't ask for more
aside from their good health and safety. Other than that, both our
families are very supportive to where we are right now. And if I will
be given the chance to come back and correct everything and turn them
back to where they should be just like other teenagers, I wouldn’t
be changing anything. This life that I have right now is what I want.
I can’t compare the happiness of having a family to those “guilty
pleasures” before. Everything is legal; we have a stable job even
though we’re still young. We can still get the chance to go out on
holidays and go to getaways. Our social life has expanded because we
gained friends from our work places.
We can say
that this transition in our life has fully changed us from a teenage
girl to a woman and him, from a teenage boy to a man. We now know how
to deal and talk about problems pertaining to our relationship,
parenting strategies and even financial issues. We deal with our
relationship maturely now compared to those days when we fight over small things.
Being a
teenage parent is not always as negative as what you’re thinking. It
depends upon the people and how they will handle the situation. The
two of us both took risks and struggled to face the outcomes of our
acts and now, we’re both living happy together and contented with
everything that God has given to us. It's just a matter of acceptance, responsibility and contentment. We should stop comparing ourselves to other people's lives so that we could live a happy life. Always remember that it’s
better to take every risk than to regret that you didn't do
anything to make a certain thing happen. =)
Do you know
any successful teenage parents? How did they make their transition
from being a teenager to parents? Share them in the comments below
and I'd love to hear from you. :-)
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